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They glance at you, maybe even smile for a second, then carry on with their conversation. At this point, Elizabeth Brucha professor of sociology at the University of Michigan, crashes in to your thought process and this news article. Yep, she says. Leagues do seem to exist. In fact, most online-dating users tend to message people exactly 25 percent more desirable than they are. Bruch would know.


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If you feel more comfortable dating members of this racial group, investigate why. Noticing these differences comes from having honest conversations with others about how race shapes our lives, beyond who we date. Maybe you owe your preference for people of a certain race to the fact that they made up the majority of the population where you grew up. Likewise, are the Asian women you've dated overwhelmingly petite and fair-skinned?

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Keep in mind that your line of questioning will depend on your identity. Our preferences have to come from somewhere.

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Did they really like these women as unique humans, or were they just fetishizing them? Then again, she notes, dating within your race might be self-protective if you've experienced racial harassment.

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But the more I pondered our conversation, the more I disagreed with her clearly triggered friend. Was he right?

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I can relate. Open your eyes to how racial images in media, politics, literature, and other areas of our day-to-day lives inundate and indoctrinate us. A few years ago, my former roommate, her friend, and I were bemoaning the state of online dating.

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Her friend, a white dude, stayed quiet throughout most of our exchange. The notion that our choices are largely products of society can be threatening, too.

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But given that racism is woven into the very fabric of American society, how do you know whether your dating preferences are racist? Williams notes that racist ideologies influence notions of attractiveness in the LGBTQ community, too. Not necessarily, according to Chan-Malik. Both can materialize as a voice in the corner of your mind, holding you back from approaching Black people at all.

At some point, my then-roomie and I — both women of color — segued into how white guys who exclusively dated BIPOC women of a certain race made us wary. For example, seeing law enforcement will create a very different experience in the body of a Black American man than it will in an Asian American woman like herself, she says.

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Based on interviews with her and other experts, here are questions you can ask yourself to help reflect on your dating preferences — whatever your racial identity — and whether they might be problematic. Chan-Malik also suggests looking inward and examining how you inhabit your own body. Growing up, I often heard that it'd be easier for me to date another Asian because of our shared culture and values, which seemed like a no-brainer.

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But according to Chan-Malik, you may not need to go as far as dating those who don't fit your "type. Consider their socioeconomic status, Buggs says, as well as their skin tone and physical features — are they stereotypically Black or more Eurocentric? They might also feel uncomfortable interrogating something typically considered private and intimate, says Sylvia Chan-Malik, associate professor of American studies, and women's, gender, and sexuality studies at Rutgers University.

When he finally spoke up, he sounded exasperated. Maybe you believe they possess a set of traits you find attractive.

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Unless you still live in your childhood neighborhood, your settings, and therefore your potential partners, have changed over time. This sort of objectification can pave the way to violenceas I ly reported for Mic. What is it about white people you find so attractive?

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Williams recommends challenging yourself to date outside of your traditional pattern. As an example, she cites people who tend to date men of color describing themselves as being attracted to athletes.

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This article was originally published on July 2, By Melissa Pandika. So is all of this to say that what we find attractive is racist? Experts tell me that attraction is in fact socially constructed.

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While researching for her book, Williams learned about some Asian parents telling their kids they can date whoever they want — just not a Black person. She encourages learning about the history of the racial images that may be informing your preferences.

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You will find a common misconception that most Asian women can be domesticated and enjoy playing the part of a homemaker.


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