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Aug 17, Relationship Advice. Striking a balance between green-lighting guys in a confident manner, and not pushing them away by coming off too strong, can be an effective way to approach flirting. Make Eye Contact and Smile.

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It brings us in touch with our desire, it evokes a cherished identity, it makes our body our teacher of who we are, and there is often something very vitalizing about this. Who knew we had this in us? I can be fascinated by your words, without declaring that I want to date you. Flirting involves sensations not just words. I am not just a woman, not just a sexual object, not flirting in Houston a funny person.

In some ways it is like we are performing on a world stage where everyone is looking and judging and where our sense of masculinity, femininity, and social value is at stake and could be decided on the basis of whether we fall short or live up to these unspoken standards that live in the social imagination.

At some level we all have a longing to experience ourselves as not being separate, as not going through this world alone, and flirting gives us this experience at least for the time being.

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You can feel my attraction, without knowing if I have an intent to follow through on it. It is not about sharing my political viewpoint, and you sharing yours. It brings us in touch with our most human self, not myself as an employee, a father, a daughter, a woman, but myself as a singularly unique human being on this planet.

Flirting brings us in touch with something about ourselves that is news to us, that we did not know before we found ourselves in this particular situation. However, as opposed to leaving you in a space of confusion, paralysis, or anxiety, flirtation elevates this uncertainty to intrigue.

What is special about these kinds of sensations is that they arise as separate from our conscious control or ego. It involves positive sensations in the body such as tingling, warmth, positive self-appraisal, feeling desired, feeling special, feeling attraction and so on. About me: I am Rune Moelbak, Ph. I help individuals who have lost their spark or couples who want to reconnect.

I wanted to find out based on first hand s, what mindset you get into when you flirt. When we laugh at something we have in common, when we both share an experience of looking at the stars, when we recognize that we are both flirting in Houston in some way, we encounter ourselves in a shared world, and not as separate minds.

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One of the more effective ways to accomplish this is to have a shared experience. Although flirting is a highly individualized encounter, it is also a social performance. We can flirt with the clerk at the grocery store when we are checking out our groceries, or at a business meeting to break down barriers of formality and appear more human.

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I am me, and you find me attractive or fascinating. Nobody necessarily slipped you their phonebut you leave the interaction feeling good about yourself, intrigued, and smiling; like you just had a very meaningful human encounter. October 24, Rune Moelbak, Ph. No comments. We humans flirt not just to find a mate, but to feel alive. The other person seems to like something about me as a unique one-of-a-kind person, incomparable to anyone else. I think we all have this longing for singularity and irreplaceability and it is very intoxicating to occupy this place in the consciousness of someone else.

So there you have it, my brief 5-point summary of what creates the experience of flirting.

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However, what flirting reveals is that there is a space in-between, where we can exist over and above these dichotomies. In fact many times flirting is not about courtship at all. However in saying this, they also inadvertently say they want to move beyond the excitement and possibilities that come with not yet having to consider the practical consequences of a real commitment, which is precisely what can make flirting so intoxicating revisit point 1.

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Who knew we really wanted this? They want to skip this part and move right to acceptance so they can be themselves without having to prove their worth. Another way to say this is that flirting teaches us something about who we are and what we want. View all posts by: Rune Moelbak, Ph. Here you can find articles that explore the truth about the human condition as it gets revealed in and through psychotherapy.

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Even if this is just a casual encounter in a grocery store, the way the other person treats me makes me feel my most singular. You are interested in going on a date, or you are not.

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We feel more alive, we feel more connected, flirting in Houston feel more human; we are intrigued not just about the other person but about the unexplored unrealized potential of ourselves. I wanted to see if there are any common characteristics that reveal the nature of what flirting really is. In this moment they only have eyes for me, I am the one they want, and the only one who has their attention. I believe I can distill much of its essence in about 5 characteristics In my dissertation I outline In life we are used to things being rather dichotomous.

Well, flirting is one of these felt experiences. In reverse, for some men this meant making sure they filled the shoes of their masculine role and that they came across as manly enough. Obviously like friendship, love, grief, and betrayal, flirting is a particular kind of experience one can have with another person, but what is it that really distinguishes it? If you are interested in learning about the other 6 characteristics I discovered through my research, I invite you to read my full dissertation on Flirting as a Liminal Experience.

Flirting is not about me asking questions, and you answering. In one of its forms it is a kind of mating dance or ritual characterized by a certain exuberance, much like what we see when a peacock struts its feathers, or a bird of paradise turns neon and does an elaborate dance to win over a prospective mate.

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Even when we zoom out and look at the flirtatious interaction not just as something that is done to me, or that I do to another, but as a dance we are doing together, the memory of this dance often holds special ificance because it feels like a unique experience we had together, just the two of us. I wanted to live the experience vicariously through what other people told me about a time when they flirted.

In flirting I can show interest in you, without you knowing exactly what flirting in Houston interest is. It is an inter-subjective experience, an experience with a fellow human being with whom we have something in common, even if it is just the mutual recognition that we are both bored at this party, or both laughing at the same joke.

When do we call someone a flirt? It is about two individuals having an encounter that makes both individuals feel like they are meeting in a t or shared moment where there is a sense of we-ness that dissolves the you and the me. People will forget what you did. The flirtatious person managed to get you out of your more detached state, and back in touch with your own inner playfulness, which can be very valuable in world that can often be about simply going through the motions. I am unique to them and therefore irreplaceable, and this makes me feel incredibly valued and important.

Even though it is tempting to think that when we flirt we are just guided by instincts, there is typically a lot of social decorum and social comparisons that enter into the flirtatious dance. Visit my website for more information about how you can schedule your first therapy appointment on-line.

So what is flirting really? The world of practicality and responsibility is suspended for a moment, and everything is possible. Flirting is able to break down the clear boundaries between two people and make us feel like we are part of one and the same shared experience. Flirting therefore brings me into contact with a particular kind of freedom and openness that gives me a taste of the existential fact that my life is not set in stone, but that anything can happen.

In these kinds of flirtations, we are not trying to go on a date, but simply generate play, smiles, and affirmations that we like each other. It is one of the ways we interact when we feel our most lively, our most free, our most connected, and our flirting in Houston wanted.

Couples Therapy. People who are good at flirting are good at generating well-being in people around them, and are typically well-liked and considered quite charming. Believe it or not, I wrote my doctoral dissertation on flirting.

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If you are on the receiving end, you might not even know what just happened to you. Flirting is about sharing a moment, undoing our aloneness, dissolving the rigid boundaries of our egos, of becoming part of something rather than being apart from something.

Flirting makes me feel one-of-a-kind. In this sense flirting often ends up involving social anxieties and social comparisons that can at times make it more intentional flirting in Houston calculative, at least until sufficient rapport and validation has been established to make these more performative considerations recede into the background.

Everything is still happening in the realm of play, fantasy, and imagination and practical decision-making is not yet needed. For some of the women there was an awareness of not wanting to be too forthcoming or take too much initiative since that might violate the social norm of the woman being the pursued and not the pursuer. Follow Me on Facebook:. Address. Who knew we had been missing something in our lives?

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And what mindset do we get into when we are flirting with someone? Written by Rune Moelbak, Ph. Welcome to my therapy blog!

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In most of the personal s of flirting I reviewed for my dissertation, calculations of what to say, when to say it, or what to do or not do, played a ificant role. It gives many more examples from actual narrated s but in a little bit more of an academic jargon than what I presented here.

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Because flirting is an essential human experience. Flirting brings this out, and we like it. When do we feel like we are being flirted with?

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That would be pretty cool, but it is more likely, I suspect, that such ill-conceived fantasies are not the answer to one's dating dilemmas, but the reason they exist in the first place.
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